Create Your Own Religion

You have every right to be upset about the title of this article. Your staunch beliefs may lead you to believe I am being sacrilegious or that I am an atheist, which isn’t true. Through my own spiritual journey laced with religion and mayhem and inner reflection I have come to a certain awareness that I wish to share with you.

Everything about this world is fiction.

When I say fiction, I mean, it’s all made up. We give meaning to everything around us. We decide that the sky should be called a sky. We decide that the color blue should be called blue. This is called social constructionism. As a society we had to get together and decide on certain TRUTHS and AGREE so that we can communicate with each other effectively. We decided to build an item and we looked at it and said, “This is a table. This is what the table is used for.” Everyone agree on this, and it is written. We did the same for everything else in our physical space and then we transferred that same authority of defining the world around us to our spiritual beliefs and our expectations for the stages of our lives.

If everything we see is constructed by society then the expectations for our lives and the roles we play in life are fiction too. We made everything up. It’s like someone in the beginning of time said, “Let’s play a game” and then started making up rules. These rules or guidelines help to establish order but later became an enforced standard perpetuated by parents (and religion) who teach children that “this is the way to be”. Anything outside of those standards was viewed as “abnormal” or “wrong,” when really, the whole thing, everything, all of our roles, concepts, language and beliefs are all made up. All of it is fiction.

We, as humans, have an innate desire to understand the reason behind our existence. We need to feel like there is some purpose for us being here so we created concepts to help us grasp onto a value system for our lives. Often, these value systems attributed the creation of our human existence to an act of some higher being(s).

The earliest social systems held polytheistic views. This means that they believed in the existence of multiple Gods who controlled and ruled the earth and its inhabitants. As time went on and civilizations evolved, a more monotheistic view was adopted and spread by civilizations. As time went on these fictionalized concepts concerning life expectations, roles and our existence were passed down from generation to generation as TRUTH.

Today, these TRUTHS have been the breeding ground for much of our civilization’s unrest because no one wants to admit that there is a chance that their TRUTH is wrong. Everyone’s truth is wrong. No one’s truth is the truth because there is no truth; only fictionalized concepts handed down like folklore and passed on as KNOWLEDGE.

No one “knows” anything. Everything is a projection of our beliefs. Every belief is a choice.

If every concept was made up by someone in our ancestral lineage and passed along the years to me then why do I have to follow someone else’s concept? Why can’t I make up my own beliefs about life, love and success? Am I not smart enough to create my own game and rules? Do I need someone else to be my guide because I am not capable of defining my life for myself? Do I not hold the same creative powers of my ancestors who started the game in the first place?

The “truth” is, I can.

And so can you.

Your religion is not only the spiritual belief system you were born in. Your religion is also the set of dominant beliefs that you hold concerning your expectations from life, love and your idea of success. You can decide to play the game and follow the instructions made up by people who lived thousands and thousands of years ago. It may actually benefit you to do that, but, what it really says about you is that you do not believe you have the capability to decide for yourself. You’d rather go along with the crowd just to be safe and there’s nothing wrong with that.

Everyone can’t be a leader. Everyone can’t break the mold. But for those who DO wish to break out of the box of the false TRUTHS enforced upon us which cause us to feel sad about any idea or expression that goes against the game and its expectations, you KNOW what to do.

It begins with a decision to explore what makes you feel good about your existence. What do you believe right now that detracts from making you feel good about who you are and where your life is heading? If you hold a belief system that causes shame, guilt or unrest about matters that have nothing to do with how you treat people and everything to do with who you are on the inside and your likes and dislikes and preferences, you should take a step back and examine WHY you choose to believe this. If your belief system forces you to meet some higher expectation that YOU did not create for yourself, you may be a victim of the “game”. You can choose to stop playing at any time.

Create your own religion. Choose beliefs that lead you to feel happy about who you are and lead you to want to live out your best life by your OWN definition.

Why Meditation May Not Be The Answer

Meditation is the magic trick that most new age students believe will get them to their intention of inner peace. Every supposedly ‘conscious’ person will ask, “Do you meditate?”

Well yes, I do meditate, but not as much as I once did and here’s why.

Meditation, in its purest form happens anytime you think a certain thought for more than 17 seconds. Whatever you are focusing on, you are meditating on. In the spiritual sense, meditation happens when you can clear your mind of all thoughts or when you allow your thoughts to flow freely without attaching any emotion to them.

Both of these tasks are difficult to do as we tend to allow our thoughts to dictate our emotions, which in turn influence how we react and interact in situations. In my opinion, meditation is useful simply to let you know that you do not have to be a slave to your thoughts. Your thoughts can be directed wherever you want them to be. Whatever you focus on, with emotional energy will often be magnetized into your life. Once I constructed that foundational premise I was ready to move on to exploring other philosophies.

Meditation, in my opinion, gives me a feeling of floating in space. There is no physical world. There is only thought. There is no color, no light, no goals, and no problems. There are no relationships, no worries, no bills, no deadlines- only thought.

One day I had an eerie feeling that death might be a lot like this. I imagine myself, or the lack of, floating off into space as nothing but a blast of joyful energy. Soon after I constructed that belief, I had a conversation with a friend who described sleep in the same way.

“Why do you think everyone runs home from work and immediately wants to go to sleep?” he asked.

“I don’t know,” I replied.

“Because they want to die to this world, they don’t want to experience it anymore.”

So my mind tied sleeping to dying and then dying to meditation and then I realized that they may all be one and the same. If they are then why would I want to spend a considerable amount of my time being DEAD while I am alive? What is so wrong with my life that I feel that I have to experience death more often than I have to?

I am guaranteed to die; at least that’s what the medical professionals say. If I am guaranteed to one day experience that joyful energy permanently, then THIS life must be a gift to me. Why am I rushing back to become a part of the energy that I came from when I should be enjoying this gift?

Some say that meditation leads to clear thinking and the ability to “hear” from God or your higher power. I understand why they say that. When you attempt to void your mind, you can relax and make better decisions that are not affected by your emotions and fears. Your negative emotions and fears are sometimes caused by the social norms that we have established or the goals we are expected to experience by a certain time. Those expectations for the development of your character or capabilities will often paralyze us, leading us to believe that something is wrong with us and fills our mind with criticisms that do not serve us. Then we need to meditate to still our minds so we can gain peace of mind.

If you simply decide that you will define your own success and minimize your comparison of your life experiences to your neighbors you may find that you are doing just fine. If you decide that who you are, even with all your idiosyncrasies, is already good enough then you won’t have to quiet your mind from critical thoughts that cause unrest in your inner being.

You don’t HAVE to be anybody great. You don’t HAVE to race to the finish line. You don’t HAVE to have the biggest house on the block to be labeled a success and you don’t have to DIE (meditate) every night in order to feel peaceful.

I say this world is a PLAYGROUND in which we were meant to enjoy. We can’t seem to enjoy it because of the ideals cast upon us by society which tells us that life isn’t pleasurable if we do not achieve certain things in a certain time frame. Who made up those rules? Why are you following them? Why do you believe you must rush back to the experience of death in order to be comforted from the ills of this life?

This world is your playground. If you think of it in terms of a board game then imagine that it is your turn to be YOU. What will you do with all the capabilities and characteristics that you possess? Do it. Or do nothing. No one is timing you. No one is watching you. No one is judging you. You are your only judge. Make the judgment that your life is already great and your evolution is happening in perfect timing.

You may not even need to ‘meditate’ tonight.

Your Fantasy: Taking The First Step Toward Your Success

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Your Fantasy: ReWriting Your Story

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Your Fantasy: Discovering Your Truths

There are certain types of individuals who might argue that certain things are TRUE and can not be denied. I like to call these type of people “happily socialized” and I am not speaking to them in this article.

For the rest of us with an open mind, TRUTH is subjective. The TRUTHS we hold fast to in our lives are mere illusions or choices that we have happily accepted.

What is the TRUTH anyway?

Is it TRUE that the sky is blue?

Is it TRUE that you will never amount to anything?

Is it TRUE that aliens do not exist?

Is it TRUE that you will not find love until you achieve a certain goal?


Let’s tackle the first one so that you will understand where I am going with this. The sky is blue because as a society we gave a name to that color. If whoever invented this language had called it something else, we would be calling it a different name too.

See…most of our TRUTHS are ideas that were planted in our heads by someone else. What makes it TRUE is our belief in that idea. What we believe, we experience.

Are you holding on to a certain TRUTH that causes you to fear disappointed, angry or fearful? If so, you must recognize that the TRUTH which is causing you so much discomfort is a TRUTH that you chose and you have permission to choose differently.

Do your religious beliefs cause you to feel weighted down by life?

Did someone tell you that you had to lose weight before you can find love?

Are you certain that you will never be able to fit comfortably into any social situation?

If you answered Yes to any of these questions, you have chosen these beliefs and you are free to change them at any time.
Change what is TRUE for your life by choosing beliefs that serve you well and promote a healthy, abundant lifestyle.

Once you change your beliefs and your TRUTHS, your life will be a reflection of those TRUTHS. Your behavior will change due to your shift in expectations and your response to your environment will shift too.

Imagine if you got rid of the TRUTH that you could never be a millionaire. If you changed your TRUTH to “I can be a millionaire and I have the skills to make it happen,” you will instantly feel supercharged and approach your goals more confidently. Your belief in this new truth will then attract the tools and skills necessary to make it happen.

Be mindful of the TRUTHS you accept for your life. Allow no one to define your TRUTHS for you, you are the captain of your ship. If a certain TRUTH does not line up with who you are or who you want to be- REJECT IT.

It’s your life.

You make the rules.