Words by Te-Erika
You’re (insert your age here) years old and everyone seems to be linked up but you. You look in the mirror and notice that you aren’t that different from everyone else. You’re smart, you’re funny and you’re available. Why hasn't love knocked on your door then?
The answer to these 3 questions may give you a clue.
You’re (insert your age here) years old and everyone seems to be linked up but you. You look in the mirror and notice that you aren’t that different from everyone else. You’re smart, you’re funny and you’re available. Why hasn't love knocked on your door then?
The answer to these 3 questions may give you a clue.
1) Do I really believe it can happen for me?
Well…Do you? If there’s even an inkling of doubt then you may need to be a break for a little self assessment in your immediate future.
What is it about you that forces you to believe that true love doesn’t exist? Is it a lack of a role model for love? Just as unique and distinct your desires are, no one person is a model for how your life will end up. Make a decision that you are living your life for YOU and don’t judge yourself by the failures of others. If you do, you’ll only repeat their mistakes.
Your belief in attracting true love is directly affecting your ability to receive it. Change your thoughts. Repeated thoughts become beliefs. Instead of repeating, “No one will ever satisfy me,” try saying, “I will receive the love I deserve.” If you say it enough, you will believe it and the confidence you exude will attract the right person.
2) Am I as in love with myself as I’d like for my true love to be?
Who are you? Are you a man who is 4 feet tall? Do you smell like corn chips in the morning? Do you enjoy reading the television guide for fun? Do you think you’re weird because you’re into S&M and no one you know is?
Well, guess what? Those things that you may keep out of the public eye are probably what will attract your true love to you!
Be yourself. I’m serious. Love those crazy, zany things about you. I, for one, love nerdy men. Yes, I said it. I LOVE NERDS. Though most won’t believe me when I express my attraction to them, I am sincere.
Somewhere out there, there is a woman who is hungry to meet a man who giggles like a schoolgirl. She’ll think it’s hilarious! Somewhere out there, there is a man who is dreaming about meeting a woman who weighs 300 pounds and loves to cook. She reminds him of his Mom.
There’s a true love for you who will, as my friend Richanda used to say, “Love your dirty draws…” So appreciate yourself for what you bring to the world and as you begin to emit those vibes of gratitude, the world and your true love, will love you back.
3) Am I at a point in my life that my lifestyle reflects my desire to be in a long-term, committed relationship?
When you daydream about your fantasy life with your true love, what does it look like? What are you doing in your career? Where do you live? How do you treat each other?
Now take a look at your current circumstances. Does what you see reflect where you want to be? I’m not saying that you have to be the person in the fantasy right now, some true love experiences will be the guiding force to help you get there, but I am saying that where you are now should be somewhere in the vicinity of where you want to be.
Do you have a home for your future family to live in? Are you a capable and stable provider? Are you emotionally ready to support and encourage the true love you have been hoping for?
Are you still dating around, allowing various people to sample the fruit that should be reserved for your true love? End the parade of waste in your life and focus on becoming the type of person you see in your fantasy. Take a parenting class or sign up for cooking classes or maybe even get that degree that will allow you to build the business that you’ve been dreaming of.
When you daydream about your fantasy life with your true love, what does it look like? What are you doing in your career? Where do you live? How do you treat each other?
Now take a look at your current circumstances. Does what you see reflect where you want to be? I’m not saying that you have to be the person in the fantasy right now, some true love experiences will be the guiding force to help you get there, but I am saying that where you are now should be somewhere in the vicinity of where you want to be.
Do you have a home for your future family to live in? Are you a capable and stable provider? Are you emotionally ready to support and encourage the true love you have been hoping for?
Are you still dating around, allowing various people to sample the fruit that should be reserved for your true love? End the parade of waste in your life and focus on becoming the type of person you see in your fantasy. Take a parenting class or sign up for cooking classes or maybe even get that degree that will allow you to build the business that you’ve been dreaming of.
Wait! Don't lose hope...
What can I do now?
Clean Your Slate
Remove all people and associations that would detract from the health of your future relationship.
Become The Person You Want To Love You
Do you want someone who is funny? Laugh more.
Do you want someone who is understanding? Be more patient with your friends and family.
Do you want someone who is educated? Get more education.
Do you want someone who is outgoing? Join a social group.
By actively becoming the type of person that you want in your life, you will find that you are consistently around people who have the same interests therefore tripling your chances of running into your true love.
Imagine This
Act as though you have already received what you have been waiting for. Buy double the amount of toothpaste. Set an extra plate for dinner. Reserve Friday nights for date night with your true love and go out and do things that you would like to do with that person.
Imagine what it will feel like to touch, to kiss, to hang out, to laugh. Use your imagination to carve out just what you’d like your life to be like and actively EXPECT it to come to pass. Rejoice every day until it does...and never fear, if you TRULY believe, your belief will force your wish into fruition.
1 comment:
Thank you very much for posting this article. I found it to be the perfect read for me at the perfect time! I do wonder, however, whether or not, this type of mental approach will actually result in the future love of my life 'materializing.' How do you maintain such a positive attitude when you feel that the so called 'unicorn' you're chasing seems just out of your reach?
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